One thing I learned when I
was a cop is you never take sides in a domestic dispute. That rule becomes fuzzy when it concerns
family and love ‘em or hate ‘em in-laws are by legal definition “Family”.
My sister-in-law and her
whacked out hubby have been playing this silly game their entire marriage. It’s
the age old game of “I HATE YOU, GET OUT”
“I’m sorry baby, come back” that in the end has no winners, only losers. When I first got the call I was in my car and
on the way to rescue my sister-in-law. The proverbial Knight in Shining Armor,
riding up in a steed of metal to save the day.
Well after a dozen or so of these little ventures my response time had
slipped to the point of just ignoring the situation for the most part. I knew better than to believe that this
situation would be any different than any other domestic issue but it took me
years to relearn this rookie lesson.
This last phone call was different. It was one of those seemingly routine rants
about him pulling his crap that I had become immune to but suddenly I got that
feeling. The feeling you get when you just know something bad is going to
happen. A pending doom if you will. Seems Jack Ass has been on psych meds for a
while and had decided he was fine to just stop taking them. Seems a lot was going on that I was not aware
of.
Note to anyone still in the
dating scene. If your possible future spouse relies on medication to remain
sane may I suggest something? Go to
Payless and find a nice pair of running shoes and put them to work. Run. Run
far, run fast, run long. I don’t care how you run but for Gods sake run.
Due to stupid decisions when
she was a teen my sister-in-law can no longer own firearms or ammo. Her stupid ass hubby got himself in trouble
but took all the cash they had and managed to get his knocked down so he can.
Now in all fairness the sister-in-law could have done the same but since he
took her money that was to pay fines her case snowballed and she was found in contempt.
So now she and her kids live in a house with a nut job off his meds and is heavily
armed with weapons she cannot be around.
He used that as one of many ways to keep her in line. He would tell her
that he would call the cops and tell them she had a gun and they would take her
away unless she agreed to basically be her slave. As much as my in-laws piss me off I cannot
allow that to continue but until I was made aware of the situation it did.
The call came from my
niece. Still to young for a cell phone
in my opinion but when I saw the number I had assumed she butt dialed. I soon discovered why she was given a phone
by her mom. She was her emergency operator directed to call me or 911 upon
impending insanity and chaos. What
started off as another crazy spell and him taking off turned into a “GTFO of my
house” followed by “We would be better off if you killed yourself” and was
ending with his insistences that she went with him to some property they had
bought way out in the boonies. She
refused and he went even more nuts. The cops show up and he goes into victim
mode. She’s causing all the turmoil and
he is just trying to get alone. She and her family are just vindictive (OK,
that part he may have them on) and all he wants is her gone. One of the cops looks at him and said “Get
real, I know how many domestics we have been called out her for”. The brother-in-law just shut up at that
point. The cops then told them both they are not to remove the children’s toys
and they could take clothing and HBA items. My sister-in-law grabbed the kids
and came out to our house.
Once we got everyone calmed
down all seemed OK. Then the text messages started. This is where I discovered just how nuts this
guy was. My sister-in-law was saving her
money so she could get a place to stay but it had been hard. She was only allowed to shop for food that
was on his list and it didn’t include anything for her and little for the
kids. If they wanted something she would
need to pay for it. He also stopped paying the rent and other bills. Where that
money went is anyone’s guess. She was
smart enough to take out half of their money though. Once he discovered that he
was livid. He accused her of stealing
his money. She informed him that it is their money and she took half. “As a matter of fact, I left you with $28
more that I took so you owe me $14” she told him. Well now it seems like she is
ready to move on with her life and get the kids out of that mess.
There is one big problem with
someone coming out of a marriage where every aspect of their lives had been
controlled since they were a teenager. They
cannot make any decisions at all. I asked,
“So what have you got planned?” Nothing
planned. “So where are you moving to?” Not a clue.
Well this was gonna be fun I thought. Just then Nana spoke up. She had all the answers and they were all
stupid ones. I called her out on them
and informed her just how stupid they were. Odd how that didn’t go over well. We all decided to go to sleep as we would
have to go get her stuff the following morning.
Ass Hole Hubby should be at work so it should go easy……………………………Yea, you
know better than that by now.
